Friday, June 4, 2010

A Fine Line...

Some boundaries are clearly defined like the yellow stripe on a busy street or a wall around a summer garden. They keep us in... or out.. of certain spaces. The rules about these boundaries are easy to identify because they are marked with tangible objects. With some boundaries, a list of laws is posted so you do not forget what the boundary means.


Is there any doubt what the creator of this sign means?






Emotional and relationship boundaries are much more confusing. This week a friend and I were talking about "where to draw the line."


When your child is venting about a tough day, when does it become disrespectful?

When moms give and give and give and give of themselves, when does it become unhealthy?

When a relative makes a suggestion about how you should raise your kids, when does it become critical or even hateful?

The fine line boundaries seem to ebb and flow like the tides. I know when I've crossed one, because I can feel the tension. But how can we expect others in our lives to respect our boundaries, when we don't communicate in traffic signs or brick walls?

Take time today to examine your own fine lines. What one thing could you do or say to communicate your emotional boundaries?

5 comments:

The Ipps said...

This was interesting to read, because Hubby and I were just discussing different cultures and their personal boundaries, etc.

HaroldM22 said...

you‘re so smart!............................................................

Jessica said...

this is a great post .... and so true...how does someone know where our boundaries are if we do not communicate that with them???

MamaArcher said...

What is really hard for me, is when others do not respect your boundaries simply because they would draw them at a different place! Or think that they are even unnecessary. How do you deal with that one?

Ebony S said...

This was a good reminder for me, that I should remain open about the boundaries in place for my family. It's easier to defend the fortress when you know where the walls are!